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Build Confidence
Would you like to:
- Feel more comfortable in social situations?
- Handle confrontations more easily?
- Experience a sense of inner comfort and relaxation?
- Handle criticism more positively?
- Assert yourself naturally?
- No longer rely on approval from others?
- Reduce your need for perfection?
- Feel more connected to others?
- Express yourself more naturally and with less fear?
- Have the strength to be able to do the "right" thing?
Enhance all these life skills and more by building greater self-esteem, confidence and motivation. You'll find that shifts at a deep level make surface-level changes easier and longer-lasting.
Experience Self Esteem, Confidence, Motivation.
 Every human being, psychologists claim, has an ultimate goal. The goal may be maintained in the subconscious mind, but it is none the less a final objective. It is the same for all people, regardless of race, creed, nationality or even physical conditions.
The ultimate goal for each individual is Self-Actualisation: achieving what sports people call a “personal best”. Regardless of background, education, financial standing or other factors, every individual is subconsciously induced to move onward and upward, to be the best possible in relation to beliefs and values. Progress toward the ultimate goal, and necessary intermediate objectives, is affected by experiential factors – the hand of cards dealt out by heredity, opportunity and life in general. There are three factors essential to positive progress: self-esteem, confidence and motivation. During the course of a lifetime, virtually everyone experiences problems involving one or more of these elements.
Resolving such problems is one of the most important and valuable capabilities of hypnotherapy.
Self-Esteem
High self-esteem is a basic essential of success. Low self-esteem, however, does not suddenly appear, like the symptoms of an illness. It develops, like a cancer, usually unnoticed in early stages, but spreading slowly throughout the mind until, when recognised, it may be full-blown, demoralising destructive and possible even terminal.
Low self-esteem actually must be dealt with before progress can be achieved in building self-confidence and creating motivation. It is difficult for a person to show confidence when he/she holds a very low view of themselves.
While poor self-esteem can emanate from events which might be considered personal setbacks (in business, relationships, health, sports etc.); the primary cause is negative programming from the past. It might be a product of judgmental parents, teachers, authority figures, relatives, or friends. Many times derogatory comments, ridicule, relentless criticism and similar factors ignore commendable achievement and simply focus on and accentuate the negative.
Frequently these events, hurts, or negative valuations are absorbed by and buried in subconscious memory, with the victim totally unaware of the sources of troubled feelings, fears, self-doubt and damaging attitudes.
But we know that the subconscious mind is the storage house of memory. Through hypnotherapy it is possible to set aside the conscious mind, seek, locate and uncover the detrimental memories which are adversely affecting the personality, and in bringing the problem to light and understanding accomplish a resolution which can free the client from the past and open the doors to future progress and achievement.
Confidence.
 The establishment of self-confidence must follow the disposition of past negative programming - eliminating from self-perception any labels such as: bad, wrong, stupid, clumsy, dumb, inept, untalented, ignorant etc. Hypnosis can become the source of self discovery - revealing unrecognised capabilities that lead to an acceptance of valid self-worth.
The procedures for developing self-confidence may vary considerably depending on the depth and origins of the problem. In milder cases, working out problems of self-esteem may be followed by programming which utilises visualisation, creating in the mind pictures of success, confidence and appropriate abilities. Enhancing suggestions given in hypnotherapy can be absorbed and accepted, leading to attitude modification and positive demonstrations of newly acquired self-assurance.
In more complex cases where depression is a factor, the hypnotherapist may elect to use the techniques of parts therapy or the removal of fears to free up behaviour and reduce negative internal judgments so that positive self-feelings and confidence can develop in a natural way.
Note that hypnotherapists may not provide a medical diagnosis or recommend discontinuance of medically prescribed treatments. Before beginning hypnotherapy, clients who are currently receiving any form of medical treatment and are taking prescribed medication, must obtain a written referral or acknowledgement from their primary care giver. Clients will be informed immediately if another professional or an alternative means of reaching their objectives would serve them better.
Longer term results can be significant. Mood and energy levels increase, compulsive and psychomatic symptoms fade, emotions become understood, clients move toward self-direction and greater interpersonal involvement. Self-derogation is reduced and positive feelings about life’s possibilities develop.
Motivation.
With self-esteem and confidence enhanced, improved motivation comes into the spotlight. Psychologist Maslow defines five levels at which people are motivated: Psychological – food, drink, sleep, sex.
Safety – protection, freedom from fear, order. Belonging – love, social contact, family, friends. Esteem – self-respect, need to be valued. Self-actualisation – the need to grow, to achieve one’s potential.
Essential to generating positive motivation is elimination of any fear of failure (or its often hidden counterpart, fear of success). First, it is important to recognise motivations and subsequent successes of the past. Second, a sense of direction is needed (Where am I going?). Then comes the all important factor of “goal setting”. Not the ultimate goal, but a short term, quickly achievable goal – a first step to provide convincing proof that forward movement is established. Finally, on achievement of this goal, self-reward. This constitutes self-recognition, a powerful motivating factor. This reward may be a self-treat, or the pride of achievement and self-satisfaction. The lesson learned will be lasting: Success Breeds Success!
The purpose of establishing short-term, successive goals is important to understand. A small success generates additional confidence. It creates a sense of completion, readiness and eagerness for the next step. The end result: Motivation!
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